Am I Just Lazy? (No)

Am I Just Lazy? (No) JUNE 2, 2021 By Tom Andre So you have survived a pandemic working from home, but you didn’t clean the garage, renovate anything, or learn to play the guitar. Looking back, maybe it’s hard to actually think of any major project you accomplished during the pandemic, and you’re wondering why […]

Struggling with Perfectionism

Struggling with Perfectionism JUNE 9, 2021 By Tom Andre We celebrate perfect – in sports, like gymnastics and baseball – but also in countless other aspects of our lives. Pundits breathlessly hail a “perfect” speech and Instagram lights up at a meal “perfectly” prepared. The list goes on. We are a perfection-loving society. It can […]

Just a Little Bit Happier

Just a Little Bit Happier JUNE 16, 2021 By Tom Andre I often get asked for advice on how to be happier. There is no one answer that fits all, of course, and you cannot be happier by simply flipping a switch. But perhaps a quick mental experiment will help get your thinking a bit: […]

Different Views About Money

Different Views About Money JUNE 23, 2021 By Tom Andre What happens when you and your partner have different views about finances? (Hint: you probably have at least a few!) Do you get the sense that either of you will suddenly and completely alter the way you feel about money matters because you’re so in […]

Help! I Need Tools

Help! I Need Tools JUNE 30, 2021 By Tom Andre This is one of the most frequent requests I receive, and I fear that I often disappoint people with my answer, which is this: it is likely to be no more helpful for me to suggest tools to manage anxiety than it would be for […]

Comparison is an Insidious Problem

Comparison is an Insidious Problem JULY 7, 2021 By Tom Andre Say you just ended a long-term relationship that you realized was not right for you. You know it wasn’t right for you, but worry it was a mistake anyway. You like being single and you have a job you like. If that’s all great, […]

Couples: When Conflict Escalates

Couples: When Conflict Escalates JULY 14, 2021 By Tom Andre What happens when you and your partner have been arguing more lately, and your arguments have been getting worse? Perhaps the situation looks something like this: You have said things that you regret and don’t mean, and it feels like you use everything that you […]