Taking the Harder Path After College
Taking the Harder Path After College November 15, 2021 By Tom Andre Unless you have always known what you want to do with your life, it’s not easy to be a recent college graduate. You’re likely expected to embark on a “career.” Perhaps you have had some internships and done well. Did those internships stoke […]
How to Pick a Therapist
How to Pick a Therapist november 1, 2021 By Tom Andre Many people who might benefit from counseling are often reluctant to contact someone because they do not want to pay someone to tell them what’s wrong with them. I couldn’t agree more. Every single one of us can find plenty of things that are […]
Avoiding the Insurance “System”
The emphasis on diagnosis is a systemic problem that stems largely from the field of psychology trying to imitate the field of medicine.
Experiencing A Sense of Failure – Where to Start
Experiencing A Sense of Failure SEPTEMBER 8, 2020 By Tom Andre Feelings of Failure You’re in your 30s and would like to buy a home. You like your job but the salary is low and you can’t save, and don’t know if you’ll ever be able to afford to buy. It’s a stretch to […]
Adult Bullying & “the Shoulds”
Adult Bullying & “the Shoulds” SEPTEMBER 8, 2020 By Tom Andre I worked with a woman in her sixties who always did things her own way. She would literally stop and smell the grass. She would get excited by the butterflies in her garden or the way a single rain cloud moves down the beach. […]
Quietly Fuming
Quietly Fuming SEPTEMBER 8, 2020 By Tom Andre Many people come to meetings with some version of the following: “My husband is driving me nuts. Every single day, he takes my slippers and puts them in the closet instead of leading them at the bottom of the stairs. He moves the tissue from a nice […]
Should I Be Angrier?
Should I Be Angrier? DECEMBER 14, 2020 By Tom Andre I often hear from people who feel a “need” to say something about their partner’s bothersome habits (we all have them!). Usually this is because they feel that it is “unhealthy” to hold back because resentment will build up and then they will “explode,” so […]
Talking With Kids About Difficult News
Talking With Kids About Difficult News DECEMBER 14, 2020 By Tom Andre I want my son to spend summers swinging from a rope into a lake and biking around the neighborhood with his friends. I want him to have weekends full of sports and picnics and playdates. I want our evenings to include family time […]
Differing Political Views
Differing Political Views DECEMBER 14, 2020 By Tom Andre What do you do when your political views are totally different from those of your partner? Sometimes nothing, of course. But sometimes views seem to have drifted so far apart couples begin to wonder if they can remain together. Love might be there, but values differ, […]
Caring for Others
Caring for Others FEBRUARY 2, 2021 By Tom Andre The “sandwich” stage of life – caring both for aging parents and young children – can be exhausting, like having a second or even a third job. Everyone who has been through this appreciates how challenging it can be, but few people choose to discuss it […]